Joy of Giving

The JOY of Giving

This post will be the very first time I won't write about cafe's review.

I don't have specific reason why I want to write about this. But there is a voice inside that encourage me to share this in my blog.

Thus, I will share with you about the JOY of Giving.

Since I was young, I always be taught to always give more rather than demand. We all know that we should do that, right? But, as a human, I have to admit that it is hard task to do. Human's nature is always "we gave already, so what is the rewards for me?" "I have sacrificed a lot, but what I get at the end?!" "I am tired of always give and others didn't do the same to me" A lot of people feel exhausted and feel "dry" because too much of giving. I have to say honestly that I ever feel that too. I am human too. So I have encountered those problems as well, and even until today, there are times I will fall and feel that why people didn't give as much as I give to them. 

I am mentioning about giving here in the context of not only give any stuffs, goods, and any other physical items, but also about the time, love, care, presence, etc. 

It is not easy when we learn to give, without demand or expect more. But it doesn't mean we cannot. We have ability, to learn, to change, and to keep trying. The only thing matter is the willingness.

When in fights with others, either because of misunderstanding, or small conflicts, try to ask yourself, you will be the one that always angry first and don't care because you feel that you always right and my pride is number one, i will not say sorry first. or you will be the one that humble yourself to say sorry and try to fix the things. Of course, we all have been in both sides before. But most of the times, which side will you be in? It is not easy to say sorry first and admit that you do wrong. I have to say, try, try and try, try to say sorry first. Apologize doesn't mean you lose. But instead, you learn how to give, give the best out of you. which to humble yourself and say sorry.

In life, we have others surround us, family, friends, bf/gf, cousins, acquintances, colleagues, etc. Most of the times, we always expect their times, their presence, they should be there when we need the most, they should accompany me when I want to go somewhere, they should help me to solve the problem, they should update me about their life, they should understand me, they should text me and call me as much as they can, and other things. Is it true that these issues often come in your mind? Honestly, I had before. And yes, it is human's nature. We always expect from others, we always demand that others will understand us, etc. But as I grow older, and this just happened recently, I learn to keep telling myself, when you love others, when you care about them, I should not expect too much. Expect too much will hurt you, right? So instead, learn not to demand too much. Others will have own business, they can't always be there for me. Sometimes I should keep it to myself, not everything I should tell everybody. I should appreciate those who make time for me, who understand me, who still update me, and find me even though they find me might be because of they encounter problems, and I still have my own problems, but, give your time for them, give ear to listen, actually there will be a little happiness, that you will feel without you realise. 

Learn to give more than you receive. I have to say, when you give more, you will get the joy that you also don't know how can I give so much but I still feel happy with my life. Try to appreciate small matters. When others update you, call you or meet you maybe just for a moment, 2 hours, an hour or maybe less. But when you be happy for what you have, you appreciate the effort of others, you will not complaint, you will feel the blessing, you even can say thank you for their effort. Giving gives you satisfaction. 

It is not easy to do it. I have to admit that I also fall down a lot of times, but I keep telling myself, I need to go back stand and learn from the mistakes. I might not be the BEST but I know I keep getting better each and every single day. I can do it, I am sure you can do too. Last thing, I have to say, try, you never know if you never try :)

Happy Midweek. Happy Wednesday!

Best regards,

Pris

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